Steps to Convince Your Parents for Love Marriage
It’s been a long time that you are in a relationship and now you have made your mind to marry your girlfriend/ boyfriend but you don’t have courage to talk about it with your parents, is the one of the major problem everyone face in life that how to convince the parents to your marriage, but for that you have to do some efforts for it.
The ways of convincing your parents for love marriage, it’s pretty important but also on the other hand for you to be also confident and sure about your decision of marriage with your boyfriend/ girlfriend. If you are in dilemma about your decision, you should not move ahead with this plan. But if you feel, you have found your soul mate and you can’t think of your life without him or her, try these sure shot tips to convince your parents for love marriage.
Share your secret to someone really close to your parents
If you are really serious about your relationship and you want it to convert into marriage, it’s very crucial for you to have supporter within your family. It may be your elder brother, younger sister, uncle or grandmother but that person should be pretty close and trustworthy with both you and your parents. If that person thinks on the same line on this matter, it could be a bonus for you.
Give hints to your parents that you want get married
The second most important move of this action plan is to start giving bold hints to your parents that now you are mentally prepared for marriage. It’s pretty important that you share this inclination of marriage with your parents. You should make them understand what exactly you expect out of a marriage. You should start pointing out boldly why you are in favour of love marriage and that you don’t believe in arranged marriage. It will help your parents understand your opinion on marriage.
Introduce your partner in public gathering
Third crucial stage in this process is to make your parents realise that there is someone in your life. So, it’s better to introduce your partner to your parents as a good friend at some function where they can actually spend some quality time. But before you take this step, brief your boyfriend/ girlfriend about your parent’s liking & disliking. Always remember, ‘first impression is the last impression’ rule works in this situation as well.
Start doing things that make them think He/She is not ‘Just a Friend’
After you introduced your partner to your parents, intentionally do a few things that can grab their attention and they can understand that the boy/ girl you introduced to them, is not from ‘just friends’ category. They should start feeling that there is something serious between the two of you. Don’t lose a chance to praise him/ her in front of your parents, especially when there is a situation in which you can talk about values and positive things about your partner.
Listen to their dreams and fears
There are possibilities that they might accept it happily after some arguments but in case if that does not happen, don’t react over their ‘NO’. Try to find out what exactly do they dislike in this relationship. There might be some social issues like caste, community, language or family background behind their denial or simply because they are not able to marry their son/daughter as per their choice. Whatever the reasons are, it’s better to listen to them patiently and analyze their dreams and fears in a right perspective.
Connect your family to your partner’s family
This is another major step. In a marriage, not just the guy and girl are getting married. It is a communion of two families as well, so it is better that the two would be in-laws know each other well. They should also understand each other’s mind sets, financial backgrounds, values, customs, religions (in some cases) and most importantly the love that their children share for each other. This will greatly affect the chances of you getting married to your partner.
Ask them to analyze your boyfriend/ girlfriend themselves
After you understand what exactly your parents think of this relationship, don’t argue with them on rational grounds. It’s completely an emotional issue for them, so give them ample time to think over their decision and during this period request them to analyze your partner on the basic grounds of successful marriage like love, compatibility, understanding, social values and adjustments. Your family supporter can play a crucial role in this situation as well, so involve him/her into it properly. I hope this strategy come to use for you and happily you can spend your life with your special one.